I sat across the table from a person who has served in ministry for several years, but has also struggled with a sexual addiction for most of that time. He observed how important it has been to have someone available to call to help with the healing process occurring in his life.
It is a sad fact that many pastors have virtually no one to call because they have no close friends. In fact, many of us as pastors have been warned against having close friends because of jealousy or betrayal.
When a crisis occurs, we must first turn to the Lord. But healing often comes in the form of strong personal friendships or accountability relationships with other people.
Accountabiity relationships are not:
Accountability relationships are:
We need accountability relationships to help us evaluate our life experiences honestly. When we have accountability relationships, we are forced to face the reality of our world rather than avoiding it. In accountability relationships, we are affirmed and accepted while being allowed the freedom to develop honestly as a person.
We really do need accountability relationships. Prayerfully and carefully seek them.
Ever feel like you need to wear a mask to cover up who you are? Are you concerned that, if people knew who you really are and how you really felt, they wouldn't understand?
One minister, two jobs and the family that's at the top of the list. The number of bivocational ministers, those in full- or part-time ministry who carry an additional job, is estimated by some researchers to be as high as 30 percent of ministers nationwide.
"You should see the church they attend," Lucille said, armed with bulletin and newsletter. Creases formed across my brow as celebration gave way to comparisons a trap that had sprung too many times.